Venus Conjunct Saturn Natal

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 Venus conjunct Saturn natal makes you a very loyal and caring person, but you can have trouble showing it. This can lead to delay and restraint in forming close relationships. You long for love and affection, but there seem to be many impediments to achieving this. Life will throw up some painful experiences for you to learn how to love yourself and love others.

This can be a karmic aspect. People from previous lives that felt betrayed or hurt by you will seek you out in this life to teach you a lesson and balance things out. It is also possible that people who hurt you in previous incarnations will come back with love to give and valuable lessons to teach. Once you have reached a certain evolutionary point, hardship and sorrow will give way to loving and lasting relationships.

Venus conjunct Saturn can be most challenging while growing up. Lack of self-love or self-respect is usually the main reason for shyness or inability to maintain close relationships. This would be much worse if parents or teachers were hard on you. You may have faced privation, meanness, withdrawal of love and affection, or absence, especially from your father. Abuse is also possible, but the main point is that you may have felt unloved and not valued by others.

Rejection, isolation, and loneliness exacerbate these difficulties as you miss out on developing social and personal interaction skills. Social awkwardness is likely, and you would most likely prefer mixing with only one person or a minimal number of people at any time.

The more you feel bad about yourself, the more people will avoid you. Imagine wearing a sign around your neck that says “unlovable.” Your karmic lesson in this life is to love yourself so others can love you. You may experience periods of isolation in between relationships. Breakups and divorce are common with this aspect.

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Being inherently lonely and bitter regardless of how good it gets is like a personality trait. My wife has moon conjunct saturn while I have the above. Which is worse I don't know. It is like a severe handicap on the emotional intelligence side for me. Thank God for other things like my moon conjunct jupiter that somewhat evens this bitter pill out.

 Difficult Venus-Saturn aspects are generally considered the most challenging of all natal aspects by most astrologers. It feels worse because it is love that most people want in this life, and you are deprived of that for some time. While young, you may prefer the company of more serious or older people. When older, you may prefer a younger partner.

However, patience, hard work, and determination will be rewarded, as is the case with any challenging Saturn aspect. The more you learn to accept and love yourself, the more you can express your love and affection. Self-respect brings respect from others, and you will earn the love and loyalty you deserve.

The same conditions experienced in your love life can also apply to your finances. The lesson is to learn the value of money and how to keep enough of it to live on. Eventually, as with love, you will learn to hold onto it and not experience periods of restraint or poverty. Saving and investing will bring you the stability and security you seek.