Adult Anxiety, poor relationships related to childhood problems

https://www.psypost.org/2021/09/depression-and-insecure-attachment-might-explain-the-link-between-child-abuse-and-poor-relationships-in-adulthood-61901 

If you find a fear of deepening relationships, like related to childhood fears of dark, monsters under bed, in closet at night then it could all be related to depth of love being not as much as needed or outright neglect or abuse from caregivers. Healing this to go deeper now, to enable fearless opening of heart and body is important, crucial in personal growth story. Recognition of the problem and getting at its roots, going beyond just trying to please internal parents with ambitious goals, instead fulfilling own true needs is important.